i'm back... unfortunately for you
hey everybody... i'm back. obviously. i hope you all had fun partying without me, and as i'm sure you did i won't bore you with my awesome trip, cause you might already know about it anyways. at any rate, it was fun, i missed you all, and i'm very much looking foward to going to camp on wednesday.
well let's see... i told emily a while ago that my "shells" post had such a wonderful response that maybe i should just make this a discussion blog. interesting idea. at any rate, i have a question for all you semi-loyal readers out there. (it came up over the trip when i was talking to someone on the phone whose name won't be mentioned for multiple reasons) (i think maybe that last comment was supposed to be kinda funny... but it didn't work) anyways... so... i'd apreciate comments and wonderful discussion again, cause i always like to see everybody's opinion on these interesting things that are relevant to out lives... or at least to some of our lives... okay, so after that unneccesary explanatory rambling, here goes: is there really only one person in the world that you're made for???
i've heard several opinions on this, ranging from "yes absolutely" to "hell no, find someone hott and make it work" (no... they weren't joking unfortunately) and everywhere in between, including that "you could make it work with at least a good handful of people, but the reason there only seems to be one person for you is because God already knows the one that you're gonna run into- if you ran into one of the other ones instead, then they would have been the one for you, but as it is, God sees the future and therefore which one you'll end up with." so... where do you fall here? (please don't give me the second answer from this last paragraph! lol)
well let's see... i told emily a while ago that my "shells" post had such a wonderful response that maybe i should just make this a discussion blog. interesting idea. at any rate, i have a question for all you semi-loyal readers out there. (it came up over the trip when i was talking to someone on the phone whose name won't be mentioned for multiple reasons) (i think maybe that last comment was supposed to be kinda funny... but it didn't work) anyways... so... i'd apreciate comments and wonderful discussion again, cause i always like to see everybody's opinion on these interesting things that are relevant to out lives... or at least to some of our lives... okay, so after that unneccesary explanatory rambling, here goes: is there really only one person in the world that you're made for???
i've heard several opinions on this, ranging from "yes absolutely" to "hell no, find someone hott and make it work" (no... they weren't joking unfortunately) and everywhere in between, including that "you could make it work with at least a good handful of people, but the reason there only seems to be one person for you is because God already knows the one that you're gonna run into- if you ran into one of the other ones instead, then they would have been the one for you, but as it is, God sees the future and therefore which one you'll end up with." so... where do you fall here? (please don't give me the second answer from this last paragraph! lol)
posted by eyes.like.sapphires @ 2:55 PM
17 Comments:
At 8:56 AM,
incurable optimist said…
I agree: I think that God, being omnipotent and omnipresent, has one person chosen for us (unless, of course, being single is that person's future). However, it may not be (and probably won't be) the first person with whom you have a relationship.
Then there's also the discussion between Henry and Leonardo in Ever After.
Henry: so let's say God puts two people on earth and they're lucky enough to find one another. But one of them gets hit by lightning. Then what? Is that it? or, perchance, say you meet someone new and marry all over again. Is that the lady you were supposed to be with? Or was it the first? And if so, when the two of them were walking side by side, were they both the one for you and you just happened to meet the first one first? Or was the second one supposed to be first? How does a person know how things are meant to be?
This poses a very interesting problem: how do we know that the one we're with is "the one"?
This is a great discussion, Sarah, and I'm excited to see where it leads. and I do check your blog on a regular basis.
At 9:27 AM,
eyes.like.sapphires said…
thanks guys... i'm glad to know i have some faithful readers out there. (i love that part of ever after by the way! hehe! actually it's an all around good movie!)
At 12:31 PM,
Emily! said…
I check your blog all the time, too!!!
My first thought was the "find someone hot and make it work..." but since you said we couldn't answer with that one...
My honest opinion lies with Christa and Betsiola. I think there is one we're supposed to be with, but we may screw up and choose the wrong one (the wonderful, yet sometimes not so wonderful, thing called free will and all that...). Then the Ever After (I stinkin love that whole movie, too!) thing comes into play... I think if the one person we're meant for died, God would bring another person who is perfect for us into our lives. I don't think He would want us to be miserable and lonely for the rest of our lives.
But hmm... maybe He would allow that to happen if we almost made that other person like our idol? Like if we loved them so much and they meant so much to us that we put them before God? Would God allow us to be sad without that person if we put too much value in them?
At 8:58 AM,
incurable optimist said…
OOH, good point, Emils. But, perhaps that person was not "the one" if so much value is placed in him/her.
At 4:22 PM,
Foolish Thing Nine said…
Well when it comes to that... I don't think there is. Because what about all the people that are out there in the middle of God's will that are single?
But aside from that, I'll let you into a little of my personal life right now to answer...
Between Mrs. Congdon and Mr. Schneider, I've come to believe that there isn't always one right absolutely correct thing to do. For instance, I've been MAJOR stressing out lately about college and all that stuff.
But as I've talked with more and more people about it - like the two above-mentioned - I've come to think that maybe God is handing me this next part of my life and saying "You do with this what you want and I'll make of you what I will, no matter what you decide". It's a real pain for someone like me who doesn't know what they want out of life.
But that's the beauty of it. Even though we are called to love everybody, most people still end up with one person they love more than everybody else. But that doesn't mean that there was only one person that that one person could have been.
Man, maybe I should occasionally blog on my own instead of getting on in CO and replying forever.... :)
At 4:23 PM,
Foolish Thing Nine said…
Now that I've read all the comments, yay Betsy! That's what I normally think when this question comes up, I just didn't feel like typing it all out :)
At 7:58 PM,
incurable optimist said…
But, Shane, what if someone finds two people with whom he/she is falling in love, but then, the one he/she feels for stronger is too much of an idiot to realize it, but the second one does, is the choosing of the second just impatient or foolish? And, what would he/she do if the first person finally did requite the feelings of him/her, but he/she was already in a budding romance with the second person? Would it be wrong to break off a great relationship with the second person to try for the potentially better relationship with the other?
At 7:59 PM,
incurable optimist said…
Sorry if that last comment confused anybody... I kinda rambled in frustration...
At 5:12 PM,
Emily! said…
Betsy, I have wondered that, too. I think that if you really think the first person is better for you, you should break it off with the second person. If the second person really loves you, they'll want what's best for you and want you to be happy with the other person, even if it's hard for them.
At 7:14 PM,
incurable optimist said…
But, should the relationship with the second even be considered, if you think the first one is the one for whom you feel the stronger emotions?
At 10:38 AM,
Emily! said…
Maybe it should be considered, maybe it shouldn't, I guess it just depends on the people and the situation. I think that even though you may still have stronger feelings for the first, if you don't feel like anything will ever happen between you, you should move on, or at least try to. Have you read Harry Potter and the Half-blood Prince yet? It comes up in there, and is a perfect example of what I think/feel/whatever.
At 4:30 PM,
Foolish Thing Nine said…
Yay for bringing HP into this! Hehe, all the loyal AtE fans knew it would happen!
But seriously Em, do you realize that the people who wrote AtE have to be the biggest Harry Potter nerds ever? I mean, they got so much of that stuff right off of nothing but a tiny paragraph in GoF (OotP and HBP weren't out yet) and it astounds me.
Now to try to go somewhere with Betsy's comment that on first read only made my head hurt worse...
I don't know that I can give a concrete opinion on this Bets. I mean, in the first place you have the part that says, yes, the first person would be more satisfying to you in every way and why wouldn't you pursue that relationship?
But think about that second person. Aren't you potentially inviting disaster upon yourself? Think of all the things that could go wrong in your relationship with that person alone. And then, stop to consider the first person. Wouldn't he/she (depending on your personal sex) constantly second guess you and your motives in choosing him/her? What is there for the first person to KNOW that they were the better person for you? Because if they truly loved you, wouldn't they want the best for you even if it meant not them?
At 7:32 PM,
Emily! said…
Whoa, Shaney... I'm not sure if I really followed all that. I'll have to re-read it a couple, maybe ten or twenty, times more, then maybe I'll get it. And yes, I was very impressed with how much AtE got right! But there's nothing wrong with being that much of a HP nerd. Well... maybe I guess there could be... but whatever. I still think they're great. And I really need to finish that lol! Soon!
At 8:24 PM,
Jess said…
Sarah~ So this comment is long overdue, but something just occurred to me. If there is only one person out there for us, then what about people who re-marry. Say a husband and a wife are head over heels in love with each other, and God meant them to be, but one of them dies. Should the other never look for love again? What if love finds them, then what? Basically i don't think that there is a right or wrong answer. To be quite blunt, i believe that it depends on the person. God has a different plan for everyone. If he didn't then we would all be the same (almost). But we aren't. Therefore, there must be an answer for everyone. Maybe for me, there is just one person, but maybe for you, God has in mind two people for you. At different times of course. Maybe we aren't supposed to know, so all we do is pray that God will reveal his plan to us. I wholeheartedly believe that God knows who he wants us to be with, unless we are to remain single of course (hopefully not). Yeah we may mess it up at times. But for some people i think that there may be more than one person. Say if something happens, like death or something else horrific. The thing is, He knows and we don't. Somehow we have to be content with that, until we know otherwise. Alright, thats it. Sorry it's so long.
At 6:51 PM,
incurable optimist said…
OK, you all might find me to be a total weirdo if I ask this (oh, wait, I am), but what is AtE?
At 5:47 PM,
incurable optimist said…
But this is interesting, too!
At 4:06 PM,
Foolish Thing Nine said…
AtE is After the End, it's a HP story that a buncha people collaborated on to make up a future for the HP world after they leave Hogwarts because they were bored to tears waiting for OotP to come out... Because honestly, it took forever! Go here if you want to read it:http://www.sugarquill.net/read.php?storyid=619&chapno=1
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